Anyone born as a human being is subject to certain norms, routines, duties, expectations, obligations and conduct suitable to be identified as a human as far as possible, even if not exactly a dependable one! Who is in charge of passing the judgment: the BOSS! Remember, there is always a BOSS, no matter what.
One of the biggest and most powerful forces the human gene has inherited by default is the dreaded “BOSS”. At work, we have the inevitable boss that keeps an eye on all our moves, does not even think twice before pulling us aside for the slightest oversight and joyfully enjoys every opportunity to establish his/her authority!
In business we have the Customer that wields an immense amount of influence on our performance in meeting his/her expectations. Any deviation and the books of accounts start displaying the dreaded red color: sure sign of impending disaster!
Back at home, the all so loving and cuddly Spouse acts the Boss with the slightest of neglect, no matter how trivial. The kids boss us around in meeting their demands even when we come home dead tired, both physically as well as mentally at the end of a grueling day.
What we conveniently forget in all this humdrum is that the biggest and most dreaded BOSS that we need to deal with, all 24/7/365 is none other than ourselves, right: ourselves! We are all answerable to none other than ourselves, first and foremost.
Soon we forget to give due respect to ourselves and address our own needs, wants, demands, obligations as well as capabilities, we end up forcing ourselves into unpleasant situations that only we can help ourselves get out of.
The urgent need of the hour for us is to create a Plan of Self Management that will help pave the way to Self Appreciation. Once we become adept at Self Appreciation, the next challenge from our inner conscience is to move on to Mass Appreciation and this is what opens up immense treasure trove of Mass Recognition that we all want but only a handful achieve.
It gives me immense pleasure to share in this elite group, various steps that I took in my personal life of utter deprivation to come out an Achiever. I took the exact same steps to attain my life’s goal of early retirement that I call Freedom 55 in pursuit of my multi-pronged passion for travelling, mentoring and writing books! You could call the following guaranteed formula to fire your boss and stand tall.
There are people all around us who just ‘live’ rather than ‘enjoy’ life; then there are those who are just ‘OK’ rather than ‘Great!’ and then we find those who can barely manage rather than ‘plan and execute’ their wish.
How would you react when the person across from you says he is ‘always incredible’?
This is exactly what happens when I respond to every ‘how are you?’ People wonder, and in some cases stop and ask again: what did you say, incredible?
People wonder how I could always be incredible. The answer lies in your perception. If you think you are OK, you will only be OK. On the contrary, when you consider yourself to be always fit and fine, this is exactly what you will transmit to others.
Change, change for the better, change as a rule of nature and change your daily routine to incorporate a system of self-appreciation and analysis where you are answerable first and foremost to none other than your own self. Any change, no matter howsoever minuscule, could have profound impact on your day-to-day performance for better or for worse.
Yes, it could be worse but only when you change to develop a less responsible and ‘couldn’t care less’ attitude whereas responsible and responsive changes will surely help you embark on a path of progress, guaranteed!
Developing such a habit is not an easy task but it is not impossible either. Yes, you cannot change overnight and I am not asking you to do that either. However, making change a habit and bringing it about layer by layer, one small bit day after day after day can and surely will help you create an unbreakable habit of moving forward on the course of progress bit by bit until you too could claim to be successful.
To help you understand better, let me recommend a little practical exercise: take one piece of paper and tear it into two. That was fairly easy, right? Now, put the two together, one on top of the other and try tearing them again; a little bit harder no doubt but still fairly easy. Repeat this exercise eight times and then you can’t go any further. Why, because the stack has built enough resistance to thwart any normal human attempt at forcing it to tear apart.
Same way, your consistent efforts at bringing about a change for the better will develop a comparable level of resistance in your own personality to thwart other peoples’ efforts to bring you back to your old ways.
It is the persistent continuation of these same efforts that will make you stand out from amongst the naysayers like cream on top of churned milk.
The only difference here is that you are not being churned by rough hands. Rather you are being shaped with intricate cuts and polished at the same time by a master diamond cutter who brings out all the beautiful facets of your glittering life to the fore.
That master diamond cutter happens to be none other than yourself while this ‘Guide by Your Side’ provides you the right tools. Are you ready for the cut and polish? Let’s start…
Originally published at Bizcatalyst360
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