Trusted Advice: Carry Your Own Weather

weather meterWouldn’t it be great if we could carry our own weather? The sun would always be shining, skies clear and blue, warm air with a gentle breeze, and best of all – no humidity. Ahh. That sounds lovely.

While we can’t do that with external weather, Mother Nature has dominion there; we can control our own internal weather. There’s a natural tendency to blame the external world for what happens to and between people. Yet, one of the most important freedoms we have is the ability to stop in moments of high emotions and choose, in effect, to “carry our own weather.” People who learn this practice become proactive instead of reactive when faced with relationships and other challenges.

The strength of our relationships, at home and in the office, is the foundation of our culture, and that culture drives our lives and our business. The concept of “carry your own weather” speaks to the whole person and translates to all of us, no matter gender, age, race, religion, or occupation. So many of us allow life to happen to us; we’re in a constant state of reactive mode. Being this way limits one’s ability to positively influence others. The key is getting out of fight or flight mode that’s hardwired into all of us and instead embrace our self-awareness to allow ourselves to step back and evaluate our own thoughts before speaking/acting. Easier said than done.

“Carrying one’s weather can express itself in many ways: from the simple choice to keep a pleasant disposition, to not allowing the events around us to spin the needle of our moral compass. But at the heart of it always a choice, and that power can never be surrendered unless we allow it.”

These are the words of Todd Davis, in his upcoming book Get Better, which I was fortunate enough to get an advance copy of when he agreed to lead a session of ExecuNet Master Class. Todd is Chief People Officer and EVP of FranklinCovey, an organization committed to helping companies and individuals achieve results that require a change in human behavior. In Get Better he outlines 15 ways to build effective relationships. Carrying your own weather is one of them.

I’m thrilled he’s agreed to lead a Master Class for us so we can hear him talk on our stage about how the key to building healthier relationships is to focus on improving our own behaviors.

At work or personally, the book is a marvel, a “toolbox full of wisdom” according to marketing guru Seth Godin, and I couldn’t agree more! It’s worth checking out! My advance copy is amazing and has been making its way around my office. While you’re waiting for your copy to arrive, take a moment and register for the Master Class.

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Mark Anderson

Mark Anderson

Mark Anderson is ExecuNet's president and chief economist. An Arjay Miller Scholar, Mark received his MBA from Stanford University and a BA in economics from Yale University. He joined ExecuNet in 1993, with extensive marketing and new product and business development experience, having served as president and founder of A&M Associates, an investment management firm. Mark's corporate leadership experience includes several senior marketing and financial positions with RCA Global Communications (a GE subsidiary) and American Can Company.

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