How to Survive and Thrive Through Life’s Big Changes

man-before-changes-doorwayLife is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them — that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. -Lao Tzu

What have you learned from the “Capital Letter Changes” in your life? Graduation, leaving home, new job, being let go, wedding, divorce, illness, birth, death. It’s mid-year, a season when many changes occur, and change whether good or sad, voluntary or not, can be stressful.

How do you deal with each change is going to determine whether it will spur you on to happiness, greater accomplishments, and peace – eustress, or reduce you to frustration, lowered productivity and regret – distress.

People are disturbed not by a thing, but by their perception of a thing.” -Epictetus

Over the years I’ve become much calmer and more relaxed now that I’ve managed to live through many life-threatening disasters, some of which didn’t really happen except in my mind. I’ve learned that my latest urgent crisis/ life change is probably not going to kill me. I can now step back take a deep breath, or 10, and look for ways to deal with the challenge with more equanimity and peace; ahh, that’s one of the good parts of getting older.

I’ve named the attitude adjustment system I’ve developed over the years, PAGDE. This five-step process has helped me deal with each major life change from my deeper wisdom instead of reacting hastily from my scared child self. PAGDE can be applied happily and effectively to both your business and personal life changes.

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Marilyn Tam

Marilyn Tam

Marilyn Tam grew up as an abused and neglected child in Hong Kong. Wanting to help others and to right the wrongs, she left home as a teen to come to America alone to study. She became a business leader (CEO Of Aveda, President of Reebok and Vice President of Nike) and a global humanitarian. She shares in her latest book, "The Happiness Choice" how you can live a life of happiness, health and success. It's her way of giving back to the world for all the blessings she's received.

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