Discover the keys to your kingdom.
“You are the heir to the kingdom. Prosperity is your birth right and you hold the key to more abundance in every area of your life then you could possibly imagine.” —Henri J.M. Nouwen
Are you feeling burned out from working harder than ever and striving to achieve goals in various areas of your life but not seeing results?
Are you feeling like your pot of gold at the end of the long-curved rainbow will never be found and therefore never be in your grasp?
Are you giving up hope on achieving certain goals and thus feeling that happiness and fulfillment will never be your reality?
Or, have you achieved some level of success but it wasn’t without paying a steep price and you are now afraid to reach further?
I’m here to tell you not to give up and instead I will teach you a better way to strive toward your goals so that your probability of achieving them and achieving them with greater ease is dramatically improved. You’ve just been missing one key piece to achieving success and I’m about to hand you back the keys to your kingdom. In my book titled, “Stressless Success,” and in an upcoming September 26th ExecuNet Masterclass by that name, I will share with you the keys to unlock the door to your dreams of a dramatically better life. What you were taught in the past about how to achieve success was actually wrong and it is the very beliefs you have because of what you were taught that are holding you back.
You have goals and desires because you think that once you have what you want such as a new job, more money, the new house, car and new relationship that then you will be happy. We actually set goals and develop dreams because we believe that achieving them will bring us some level of joy and fulfillment. I’m not disagreeing with this at all and certainly not wanting to dissuade you from setting goals and striving for success. But I am here to tell you that you have the order of things all wrong in your head and once we adjust your thinking, not only will you achieve happiness but you will also achieve your goals with ease and grace. Yes, you will. And this is what we think of as stress-free, or Stressless Success.
The problem is that if you are miserable while you strive and struggle to achieve these things that you want, you block them from actually happening. You get stressed out by working so hard that you not only impact your emotional wellbeing but you wreck your physical health and often your relationships too. Bruce Lipton, author of Biology of Belief, has stated that 90% of illness on this planet is due to lifestyle choices and stress; not on genetics. How well are you going to be able to enjoy your new home, job or relationship if you are sick and tired? You’re not. But the real truth is that your dreams will not become your reality or will take much longer to be achieved through stress and struggle. Longing comes from a sense of lack, and stress and struggle come from not trusting and not believing that what you want can be yours easily and with inspired action.
When you are stressed, you are in fight or flight mode. In this mode, you are focused on what is happening in your outer world instead of focusing on your inner world, such as your thoughts, attitudes, feelings and emotions. But it is your inner world that has all of the power, which you will learn in this ExecuNet Masterclass and series of articles over the next five months. You can’t control what is happening around you but you have complete control over what is happening inside of you, your reactions and attitudes to things. But, when you shift what is happening inside of you, the things around you begin to shift.
When you are experiencing negative stress, the stress hormones that are released restrict the blood vessels in your brain and you become less creative and less intelligent so you are less able to solve the very problems that are causing you to feel stress. We live in such states of resistance (or stress) that we create mental and emotional walls in an attempt to protect ourselves. By doing this, we deprive ourselves of allowing solutions to flow to us. We focus on the problems instead of the solutions because we believe this is how it works. We believe that the more we stress, the more we will achieve success, which is all wrong. The key is that you actually must improve your state of mind for where you are now first, and things that you want to accomplish (and more) will come to you more easily.
The cornerstone of achieving your goals and thus a successful life is based on your level of joy and fulfillment now, not the other way around. You must develop skills at maintaining a sense of mental, emotional and physical wellbeing and positivity while you work toward your goals, no matter what. You believe that you can’t control what others do or say or the things that happen around you, and so you allow your thoughts and emotions to be dictated by others. You do, however, have complete control over the thoughts you choose and the feelings that you feel and this has a direct impact on what actually does happen around you. Now this is very empowering.
Many people teach about the virtues of positive thinking but the problem is that happiness is elusive for many. In today’s world, everyone lives at a level of stress, fear, and anxiety that destroys the quality of their work, their relationships, and their health. People keep striving and struggling only to be left feeling stuck and frustrated because they can’t seem to figure out how to reach the levels in life they long for. Many justify their existence through hard work. They believe that stress and struggle are pre-requisites to success or they equate struggle with striving and they sometimes wear these like badges of honor.
Struggle and hard work will get you somewhere, but it will be very hard. Actually, when you stress and struggle, you block solutions and additional even greater opportunities from coming your way. To achieve true and lasting success, you must lighten up on the inside so that the weight of on your shoulders lightens too. How can you spread your wings and fly if you are weighted down by fear and worry? Begin to have more fun and laugh at life more. Life is supposed to be fun. Those that teach about the power of positive thinking are on the right track but they don’t truly teach you how to do it when life is challenging. They also don’t truly teach you the science behind what is being generated from your thoughts and feelings. It is this deeper understanding that is critical to inspire you to finally take control.
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I speak often on how to combat today’s pervasive negativity and develop a mindset of consistent and sustainable passion and positivity. When you learn to live at an uplifted level of hope and positive anticipation, not only does this feel better and make life more enjoyable, but more good things flow into your life that help you to move more quickly along your path to success. Did you ever notice that when you’re in the zone helpful people and hopeful opportunities seem to appear in your life? This is no coincidence. Winning athletes and highly creative people do this all of the time, and the research has shown that so do the world’s most accomplished people. When you’re in a high-energy positive zone, you’re actually open to allow good things to appear into your life.
To do this, it is important to have practices and habits in place to continuously nurture positive energy and enthusiasm. People who live the most successful lives don’t wait until trouble hits to try to reach for better thoughts. They practice this with deliberate intent to pave a clear path to positivity no matter what is happening around them.
What are some things that you do that take you to your place of positivity? Do you love to go to bed early and get snug in bed so that you wake up feeling rested and peaceful? Do you love to say a few prayers or meditate in the morning and then set good intentions for a great and productive day? Do you love to sing your favorite tune in the shower and dance your way through the kitchen while making breakfast for you and the kids? Does this all sound too outrageous? Well, I think living a life of exhaustion, boredom and misery is what is truly outrageous when it is actually simple to choose otherwise.
Okay, I’m having fun with you here but doesn’t it feel good to smile? The truth is I’m not really joking at all and what I described above is exactly how I choose to start my day. And, when I do start my day this way, the rest of the day goes better than ever. I’m more productive because I feel happy, clear and energized and often wonderful, sometimes miraculous, things happen that take me further down my path toward success.
You know intuitively that there is truth to what I am telling you. You know the days when you get up and stub your toe on the bedpost that things go downhill from there. You say, as the day goes on, that you should have stayed in bed today or that you “got up on the wrong side of the bed.” This is not just coincidence; it is reality. Because as soon as you stub your toe you begin a downward spiral of thoughts that become more and more negative until you find yourself kicking the dog, grumbling at your spouse, having road rage on your way to work only to find out that your largest client cancelled their contract. What you may not want to hear is that you created this by allowing your energy and positivity to go down the drain.
If instead, you could deliberately and intentionally repeat to yourself positive thoughts about your day before you even get out of bed, not only will it be less likely that you stub your toe but if you do, you will be more inclined to laugh at yourself and tell yourself, “I’m glad I got anything unpleasant out of the way first thing so that the rest of my day can be amazing.” Then you smile. Before you know it, your kissing your dog and your spouse (not necessarily in that order) and you enjoy your favorite music in the car on your way to work whether the traffic is heavy or not. By the time you get to work, even if your biggest client calls to say that they are thinking of cancelling the contract, you are so energized with positivity and your thinking is so crystal clear that you come up with a solution or an added benefit to offer that saves the deal.
Using the power of your imagination is another strategy that has a similar and powerful affect. If you could imagine that your goals are already realized and get the feeling as if they already are, then you begin to experience that good feeling that you are actually hoping to have once you achieve your goals. This requires that you develop a skill of incredible focused imagination, but it takes you to that place of positivity, which increases your chances of success. Please don’t worry. I will teach you all of this in this series in great detail and more. Some of these initial ideas you may have heard before but I go far deeper into the newest research and share teachings on how to truly live a life of stress-free success unlike anything you will experience anywhere. As one of my highly accomplished coaching clients recently said to me, “I am finally getting real results that last and I can’t wait for more.”
So now what is your true goal? The main goal that everyone must set before all others is to cultivate elevated thoughts and emotions no matter what. You must develop happiness habits that get you to your place of positivity and sustains you there as often as possible. By doing this, not only will you experience less stress, but you will also experience more joy, fulfillment, and success, and thus the title of this Master Class and my upcoming book, “Stressless Success.”
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