How to Stop Being Derailed By Your Emotions

woman-which-face-mask-to-wearWhat the world doesn’t see is the dynamic whirlwind of beneath the surface. Just as the world doesn’t see the dynamics underneath our own surface. Sometimes they come and go as simple sensations like waves on a shore. Sometimes the undercurrents seem rougher. Yet our emotions aren’t meant to hamstring or derail us.

They are sophisticated mechanisms designed to help us deal quickly and automatically with threats and opportunities that may be present in our environment. They work in tandem with your past experiences to let us KNOW when there is an issue that needs to be dealt with that’s KEY to our survival. Nowadays while survival isn’t at stake, but our emotions are still fully operational. Many times, our emotions are simply sensations that don’t require analysis. Other times, especially if an emotion is chronic, it’s triggering deep, unresolved issues.

So the next time you’re caught up in a whirlwind of anger, frustration, fear or hurt. Get curious and honest with yourself:

  • What’s this REALLY about?
  • What about this event is triggering these emotions?
  • How sure am I that I didn’t misread the situation?
  • Who or what am I blaming and therefore not taking responsibility for?
  • What am I making this event mean? How real is that meaning?
  • What’s the lesson?

Here’s the thing: your emotions, while they sometimes may seem to get in your way, they’re actually your body’s way of conspiring to help you! The problem is that we aren’t taught how to understand, much less use them correctly. Because in actuality, emotions are there to tell us something about ourselves that need to be resolved. Because once resolved, they won’t hold power or sway of us. Isn’t that good to know?

Jade Goodhue

Jade Goodhue

Jade is an ExecuNet Career Strategist and Career Coach. Working 1:1 with high-level senior executives, Jade provides strategic guidance and coaching to help ExecuNet members land their next great opportunity. This includes uncovering their unique personal value proposition and defining competitive differentiators to advance their careers. Additionally, she provides detailed feedback for improving a personal marketing collateral—well beyond their résumé.

In addition to ExecuNet, Jade is the Founder and Owner, The Mastery Factor: Mindset and Behavior Specialist for leaders. She designs, develops and delivers one-on-one and group high-impact leadership development programs, as well as provides accountability, coaching, and cognitive and behavior assessments.

Jade served as a captain in the United States Marine Corps, she was a company commander, a black belt martial arts instructor and served two combat tours to Iraq. After transitioning from the Marine Corps, she gained a myriad of financial sector experience.

Jade holds a Bachelor of Science in Engineering and Minor in Japanese from the United States Naval Academy. She now attends the Harvard Extension School as a Candidate for a Master of Liberal Arts in Psychology. Her certifications include Lean Six Sigma Green Belt, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner, and in progress as a Board-Certified Behavior Analyst. She’s a volunteer at The Animal Foundation – a non-profit organization operating Nevada’s largest animal shelter and animal adoption center.

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