9 results for author: Marilyn Tam


Failing Forward – How to Make Failure a Positive Opportunity

"You’re right. You get an A." Sweet words. We are trained from a young age to seek the approval and positive rewards of being right. The result of this conditioning is that most of us consciously and subconsciously avoid failure more than seek success. Yet ...
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How to Communicate on Difficult Subjects and Win – A True Story

On June 3, the Association of Women in Communications Santa Barbara honored me with the Pioneer in Communications Award. We Chinese have a saying for almost any occasion. And there's one for this occasion: Local ginger is never hot. What that means is that ...
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Transitions are Painful – Six Steps to Make Them Glorious

A dear old friend of mine just transitioned. Pat was an old friend in all senses of the words. She was close to 90 years old, we've been friends for 21 years, and she was loving, funny and endearing to everyone she knew. My heart twinges when I put on the ...
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How to Survive and Thrive Through Life’s Big Changes

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them -- that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. -Lao Tzu What have you learned from the "Capital Letter Changes" in ...
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It’s Your Life, You Get to Choose: 7 Tools to Help You Get What You Want

Waiting for something or someone to give you what you want in your life is abdication of your free will and choice. Yet we've all had occasions when we thought: "If only I had __X___ then I'll be _____," fill in the blank with one or more of the following: ...
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How Differing Opinions Can Help You and Your Business

Generally we like to be right; it reinforces what we believe to be true. We may feel uncomfortable or even threatened when others disagree with us or present a diametrical point of view. However if we knew all the answers, our worldview, business strategy and ...
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The Most Powerful Motivator: How to Inspire Yourself and Others

How do you get others to do what you want them to do? Generally people and companies motivate with some combination of fear, punishment and material reward. "Do this or else," couched in some more politically correct way is most often used. The "or else" can ...
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Stressed? Laugh it Away

If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn't ask me, I'd still have to say it. – George Burns Almost everyone I meet lately talks about how stressed they ...
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Happiness: 6 Ways to Make You Happier

"Happy," the very word sounds good, and well, happy. Happiness is what we wish others on their birthdays, anniversaries, and other important occasions. Yet the overall level of happiness, especially for women, has decreased in the past 40 years. It seems the ...
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